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Trust Issues

My boyfriend and me are in a relationship since last 3 years. It was a very normal kind relationship. I used to love him a lot since the day he proposed me. I could not understand that he is just playing a love game from me. He left me aftr the 2 months of relationship with some stupid reason.even after this i used to be very clean for him and finally he came back after 6 months and texted me that he wants me back. Moreover i forgave everything he did. Now relation was going gud. After our graduation we both have to take admission in different colleges. I forced him to stay in same city where i was staying. And he stayed. My problem was i never call him after reaching my home. Meets him everyday in college but never specially meets him. Aftr got admissions our relation was normal but after few months i came to know that he has talked his ex girlfriend. No matter i fought and forgave him. But later on i found that he is showing less intrest in mee and then i start exploring the reason. Then i found that he has started talking to a new girl, taking her to the lunch. Even after knowing everything i remain quite but one day something worst happened and i told him that i know what you are doing. Then he first try to cover that story then accepts his mistake and says yes i was talking to that girl from few months and i kissed her. That was very shocking for me. Soo i asked him to leave her and he said yes i will leave her but not telling her truth. He start making my heart emotional and start his appologise that i want you only dis dat. After being soo angry finally i decided to tell him a truth that i never told him earlier. And i told him that i am not v*rgin. He was known with this fact as we never had s*x before. He was shocked and much more disturbed. He used to abuse me with soo many bad words but i keep on listening. I am trying to make it up since 2 months but now he start saying that you never gave time. You never came for meetings. You are not beautiful. You are not rich. Why should i love you and what is left to love u. He forget every sacrifice that i made for him only. I never ever think about cheating on him. He always do that. But now he is not ready to accept me as earlier. Tell me what should i do??? Please help me!

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He is from procurement team, and I am from marketing team. He has to take care everything related with the marketing team. Everyday, he comes to me and talk with me although it is not related with work. All of my colleagues are teasing me that he is liking me. I also aware of it, but we two are communicating like close friend. When I send the message, he replied immediately or a few minutes later. He sent the birthday wish to me at 12:00 am. I was so surprised. He told me I am the type of girl he likes. I am almost sure he love me. But, now he has to take responsibilities for technical team by order. I asked him you will help me although you move to other team. He said he will help me forever. After a few days he moved to that team, he treated me like stranger. Although I send message to him related work or other things, he didn't reply to me. His voice is also changed like stranger when I call. He didn't want to help me like previous. When I smiled him, he didn't smile to me. I asked him why you suddenly changed. "When you are part of marketing team, you treat me like sister and close friend. Now you treat me like stranger. Why you didn't smile me when I smile. You are cute when you smile". He replied my message. "Sorry to make you sad. I feel so stress because of work. I will be same and not changed. You will always be my sis. You are also very cute and I like your smile so much." I think he still love me because of his message. But, when I see him at office, I can still feel like stranger.

I want to know why he suddenly changed his mine. Please kindly answer me.

Nick Replies:

He already said his problem, trust him OR else speak with him over a coffee.

God Bless

Parent Pressure

I loved a guy...who is 3 years elder than me...he too loved me..and now there is an issue in his home..because.. of his sister's love..he was emotionally caught by his parents..and he told me that...he wants to live for his parents...and his parents can't bear..that he is also in love...so he said me to end the relationship... but I can't live without him...what could I do to make him mine...with his parents support...I'm 19..he is 22...years...what shall I do..I seek your advice...

Nick Replies:

First check how will your parents react. If they are supportive then ask them to help you in convincing the guy's parents.

God Bless

One Sided Love

I love a girl who is also my friend. We have been friends for last seven years since 2009. I have feelings from then only. We are in touch very frequently. We see each other once a week. We go for movies,events, lunch, dinner, shopping, together. In 2010, I confessed my love to her, but she rejected telling she has a boy friend and few days later she stopped talking to me. So after one year in last of 2011 she again started talking to me. That time she said that she broke with her boy friend. Then we again started seeing each other. Again I proposed to her and again she stopped talking to me. Later in 2015, She started talking to me after I said sorry and I convinced her that I will be remain just friends not more than that. Now its been one and half years and we have been regularly seeing each other. She takes these meets as only friendly meets not dates. She not only sees me for movies, dinner, lunch or other events. She goes out with her other male friends as well similarly like me. Now I am getting very much confused. What should I do. I am truly madly deeply in love with her. But like me she goes out with other guys as well. When I ask her does she has a boyfriend that she replies with "No". Please suggest me what should I do.

Nick Replies:

If you have the guts and patience then wait for her to love you. You can probably judge this if you be away from her for a while. Sometimes what happens is your presence gets ignored but your absence is felt. If she thinks about you as an integral part of her life then she would come to you and if not then please move on. Sometimes these waiting periods just happen to be "eternal wait"

God Bless

I am substituted, I want her back

hi I am from India
Typical Hindu family.

since January 2017 I was kind of avoiding my gf just to focus on my studies to get a job so that we can marry soon
but die to this she always had fights WID me.
we didnt talk for few days. but I convinced her
after few days again fights
but during this period we also had good times and romance also
in June stsrting she msged that she will see another guy,I just ignored her msg

few days after on my bday she just msged me.
on June 14 or 15 all her fone got off except one. I tried to call bit no answer
now whole of July 2017 I tried to covince her by my msg romantic once
our past romance.,times we spent etc
I begged her
waited her in front of her classes so that I could covince her
once she to felt pity on me or what she said to have a lassi drink then go home coz I was swetting badly in the son when she saw me

but on July 29 I sneeked into her hostel nd was shivring coz it would had a havock if I was caught
I touched her feet to forgive me
but she said warden will come go
she got to her so called friend for help

I tooked her phone and came back home
( she had one of her phones with her) she called me and cried to give her phone back
I came back I saw she was dating another guy
that guy told me he had kissed her hugged her
( I dont know that time if he was right or wrong coz I was pretending to be my gf as I was talking to that guy)
I was soo drepreseed that tym
that guy called me and said that he want to meet me coz she called her nd told I have taken her phone
I told every thing that how much I loved her
she had also lied lied to her on my gifts that she had purchased them.
I was so angry I called her both brothers
the next day they took her home
I showed all her messages to them that she kissed and all that
I told her Bro about me also of knowing her for 4 years
I said I want to marry her plz wait few months I will get a job
he was ok with it
and said thanks to me, would talk for me as her husband.
I told that the other guy was threat to her as he wanted to insult her in public ( its true)

now they took all her fone laptop
nd said to burn all her books

brothers not want to see sister
father not talking etc tension in her home

her brothers say that she doesnt want to marry
I on augest 18 tried to convince her on phone ( her home is veruu far in another city cannot go there)

she kinda abused me nd said will not marry me at any cost
in that emotion I called up her brother nd said to do what they want to do
I will not interfere
marry her with suitable guy but better than me
if not I am there
I will call u when I get a job.
her brother said ok

I want her back at any cost
Plz help
I am ready to do any thing
plz suggest ways
I am tensed that her father wont fix her marrige before I get a job
this tension doesnt let me sleep
I am mad without her
I want her please help

Nick replies:

Grow up. There is a saying that "If you love someone let them free, if they come back they are yours if they doesn't they were never yours". Hope you understand what I say. Be Strong and Be Successful in life. Take this as a challenge.

God Bless

Either To Wait Or Not

In a coaching class a mate a guy.. He is hardworking, honest there is no doubt about it. he started to sat with me daily in classroom bcoz i am so good in study. he cares me alot bcoz of thiz i started luv him..i thinked that he also luved me. due to this i propose him in msg..he didn't reply me bcoz he understand that i don't want to propose first. then next day he propose me and i said yes..his exam is on june and my exam is on dec..after propose we r so happy. after 2 month of met we get intimated not sex..but smooch and most of.. when i am asked him that can we marry in future he said not no not yes just say in village luv marriage is not allowed.. then after completion of course we get separated i just had a phone number of him and nothing else. he is from some city and i am from some city. few days after his number continuously get switched off. i was thinked that he just want romance from me no love.daily i cried..then when my revision class is start for dec exam he came just to met me that day he gives me letter that m not wrong. i always luv u..my no. gets blocked.. promise i never leave u.
everything is fyn between us..then he make fb id and do not tell me about this..but suddenly i know about that he make fb id..i was sad that he doesn't tell me about this. then i think its tym to check his loyality.. then from fake id of another gals i started talkinh wid him. he tells in fb that i never love someone else yet..
he started flirting wid that fb girl.he thinked she is unknown..then afterward i tell him that...she was mine not someone.. he tell me thats not good which u do..i just flirt nothing else..after that day he decided to leave me.. bt m not able to leave him.. i always begged him please stay and he bcoz of mine cry always stay wid me..but always we fight. he started to abuse me vry badly..he just want "ki kese bhi mujhe chodkar chli jaye"
then he thinked that "yh to bas shak karti hai. aur preshan karti hai..pure din iss ladki ko mujhse baat karni hoti hai..study nhi ho pati..mai apne sapne kaise pure kar pauga aise mai"..
then again one day he abused me like maa behn ki..i just thinked that why he abuse me. kya pyaar nhi karta. preshan bhut karti hu to kya abuse krega ...islie i decided to never call him..after 3 months of no contact..he call me for my result.. i said i failed but he passed d exam.. i said go to hell dhokebaaz than he said " aaj wo dhoke baaz hi tere dukh mai sath hai"..
after that a day everything again become good between us..he said" alag rehta tha that doen't mean tere se pyar krna b band kr dia"
just one truth also is that i always doubt on him... one day i tell him characterless and more that words that no one can tell to anyone bhut galat maine gusse mai kaha..but that doesn't mean i don luv him. i call him 40-50 call dailyy..always fight on call. always doubt on him but he never cheat on me..thats d fact...
he always more concentrate on his career his dreams. i always tell him to kiss me bcoz i thinked otherwise he goes to anyother gal. but wo samjhne lga yh mere pas bas kiss etc k lie hi aati hai...he always gone away when i tell him to kiss me..
then again we fight but after someday again i cried on phone call very badly because again he abuse me..then i cut call next day we both say sorry to each other. then he say " agar mai tujhe kabhi kiss etc karna chod du to tu mujhe ek pal bhi yaad nhi kregi" tu sirf attraction rkhti hai yhi sb chahiye tujhe mujhse ..pyaar nahi..pyaar kiss etc k bina b hota hai.." i said esa nahi hai. then he said ab jo tu khegi whi hoga.. i luv u..pr kbhi kiss etc ki mat khio..
then again everything is good b/w us..then again he cared me alot .and loved me than no one can love me ever...
but one day he after so many days after he come on net.. he not msgs me and online on whtspp and am get angry why he not msgs me.. then i tell him very badly u r characterless and more..he said m just talk my friend ..and i nt msgs u but u have d ryt to msgs me why u fight..then he get upset and tell me we talk on morning m not on good mood but m also on anger i told him vry badly then he delete m from his contact and blocked me..
that nyt am cried more and not slept..n call him full nyt..but he sleeped. today he see 100 call he abuse me u r mad sanki type ...m cried more. he finally said go away i don't want u for my life..
then till 6 month i said " mai kabhi shak nahi krugi..wapis aaja m sorry.." he said nahi rkhna mujhe kuch bhi. i always cried but he never melt again..always abuse mee..kehta " tu beshram pad chuki hai mujh jaise ladke ko jo tujhe abuse karta hai mujhe jese ko nikaal k fek de" but i never ...
he said naa mai tujhe khush rakh pauga aur naa tu mujhe.. i always loved u..tu hamesha mere pas rahegi but meri life ke raste alag hai.. tu mre career ar sapno ko pura nhi hone de rahi ...daily office tym p 50-60 call..never call n msg me.. he again write a letter for me on my bday that i always respect n love u but plz don't call n msg me.. main kisi ladki se pyar nhi karta tere alawa believe me.. bs phn n msg mat kra kr.. tu hmesa mre pass rhegi..i luv u...i cried but wo nhi mana..
now few days pehle his mobile stolen by a thieve. some of his frnd tell me that...he take a new sim but yet he doesn't gave his no. to me..not yet...
to kya ab wo mujhse pyaar nahi karta kya ..use ek baar bhi nhi lgta hoga kya ki wo kesi hai..Roo rahi hogi bhut n ol..mera Marne tak ka man karta hai ..what i do kya wo wapis aayga...aur kya mujhe usko iss bar maaf krdena chahiye..preshan mai karti thi but pyar bhi to bbhut karti thi yh wo janta hai..still usne abhi tak mujhe apna new no. nhi dia.. kya wo mujhe bhool gvya hoga,..plz help me m soo upset..kya kru..?

Nick replies:

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